I’ve been people watching and I’ve drawn on a library of observations gained over time. See if this resonates with you.
Seated comfortably? Then here I go.
There are people who in this life are needy. For a variety of reasons which a lot of the time are not their fault. Some are born in the wrong place, bad geography. Some have bodies that are broken or minds that just don’t fire correctly and that makes us sad🥺. Some fall on hard times or circumstances prevail against them. They’re dealt a bad hand. You will be thinking of other needs I’m sure. The thing is, I’m beginning to ask if there are also people who need to help, to be able to give. In fact they have a need all of their own. They have to be doing something for others.
Such people are always throwing themselves into the breach, often at some cost to themselves. People praise them and see them as having a selfless nature, of holding others higher than themselves. But here’s the thing, whilst they are being seemingly selfless, are they acting to meet a need in themselves, albeit subconsciously? Like moths to a flame they are drawn to places and situations where they can be helpful be it by dedicating their lives or just giving an hour or some money or something else.
So who should be thanking who. ‘Thank you that I was in need and you came’ or ‘thank you that you let me help you’. Does that seem like a bizarre question? But take time to look at people who are always there to assist and make better. Watch how, when one situation is finished and completed they are on the look out for the next.
Don’t get me wrong, we so need these people. What would the world look like without them? I know of more than one or two who have made huge contributions to areas of need. But I have also seen that they are unable to stop. They are driven. Again I say ‘thank goodness for such people’. But are they the balance in a needy world. Is their existence part of the karma of the universe? Part of the cosmic jigsaw without whom the picture will not be complete?
So, next time you say ‘Thank you’ or next time you receive a ‘Thank You’ stop and access who should be thanking who.
Yours, assuring you that I am not a helpful type so I need all your thanks if ever I act😎,