Have you ever tried to be kind to someone and it hasn’t been received? There you were, out on the day, and you spotted a need, a gap, and having the means to fill it, you did. You did it quietly with no attempt to attract attention and you’d have thought that you’d committed an offence when it was received!
The questions come. Why did you do that? You should have asked me first. I don’t need your charity. All of a sudden there you are wishing you hadn’t done that thing!
I can understand that there are those who, needing to exercise control, dress their actions up as kindness to justify them. But that’s not us is it? We just come across gaps in people’s lives, dare I call them needs, and we respond by attempting to bring something good in. We see suffering and we want to do something to improve the situation. It’s who we are. Plus, we accept that there are battles going on in many lives we brush up against which we don’t know about so kindness is the most appropriate approach.
If an act of kindness is rebuffed what do we do next time? We are kind all over again. We are kind anyway because kindness comes from who we are and not who the other person is. The fact that some people are hurting and do not know how to receive a gift should not stop us. If it’s a matter of being right or being kind, choose kind.
For some, anything received incurs a debt and has to be repaid. For others there are trust issues stemming from the way they have been treated previously. In such situations you can be kind anonymously and the recipient feels no debt to anyone in particular. Choose your moment carefully because you may only be able to do it once or twice in certain situation. We don’t want to make it weird for the recipient do we.
If it thrown back at us we don’t give up, don’t get disheartened. We continue to lead with kindness. Again, kindness is dependant on you and no one else. It is an expression of who you are and what goes on in your life. It tells the world all about you in ways nothing else can. And remember, kindness is a universal language that even the deaf and the blind understand.
Yours, trying to be understood by all in the coming week,